WENDY'S (:

PRIVATE SPEECH; INNER THOUGHTS.

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Here are MORE articles from the same book. =)

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SAY "CHEESE" !

I'm not trying to raise your cholesterol
I'm trying to raise your spirits!

This is one of those ideas that you might read over a couple of times and decide to skip because you think it would make you self-conscious. . .
but it will also make you feel really good.
Give it a chance, since you have nothing to lose.

Here it is: Just smile at yourself in the mirror every day
( No, not to see if you have lettuce in your teeth )
but to establish a good mood for the day!

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Lollipop Theory

Remember when you were a kid, how you went to the dentist to have a cavity filled and then got a lollipop on the way out?
I never quite understood why dentists handed out sugar on a stick, but maybe it was to ensure repeat business!

In any case, the idea of receiving a little treat after you accomplished a goal is a great idea and one that i practice on my daily basis. Anytime i have to do something that's not my favourite task, i put the lollipop theory into play. The little treat doesn't have to be food, but it should always be something you really like.

Here are some of my quick picks:
- - After i weed my garden, only then can i cut and arrange my roses.

- - After i clean my desktop, i can snuggle up and read some of my favourite letters from my special drawer.

- - After i clean, peel and chop all the vegetables for the soup, I can ice the cake (and sample the icing!)

Customize the method that works for your own likes and dislikes and you'll see how easily you'll accomplish what usuallly gets pull off for a while. And guess what? They have delicious sugarless lollys now!

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YOU'RE NEVER ALONE

Due to the way the bus route ran, as a three-year-old, I was always the last kid to be dropped off from the day care. But Mom taught me that I was never really alone.

Whenever i started to feel my little lower lip quiver, she reminded me to hold my own hand for company - and to this day, whenever I really miss her and reach out to hold her hand, i hold my own.

I've even reached out for this "handful" of a security blanket while broadcasting live on the air. During a particularly difficult assignment, when news was breaking all over the place, my earpiece connecting me to the control room and producer broke. . . leaving me without a way to get information and feeling very alone. While people were watching from all over the world, i gently held my own hands and then. . . I proposed to myself. . . just kidding.

But really, this gesture made me feel secure. It takes a while to get into this habit, but once you do, you'll never feel alone.

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TRADING PLACES

Every day, as I walk around my neighbourhood, I see individuals who seem to have the weight of the world on their shoulders. So, when I suffer a disappointment, i try to focus on the positive aspects of my life. It's important that we remember how lucky we really are despite the challenges that we may be facing at any given time.

Whenever you're feeling sorry for yourself, ask yourself if you would honestly want to trade your set of problems for someone else's . . .
You'll probably conclude that you're fortunate to be you!

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HAVE I GOT A TIP FOR YOU!

A dollar or two spent on unexpected tips can garner million-dollar thank yous.
I love to show my appreciation to gas-station attendants, toll-booth takers, train conductors. . . folks who usually don't receive gratituties. You would think i paid for their kid's college education judging by the reception!

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DESIGN YOUR DELETE BUTTONS

What a sense of accomplishment you feel when you push the delete button on your computer and zap away all those unwanted, unnecessary e-mails. What an even better feeling to do it in your own head.

When i'm feeling overwhelmed by all the unnecessary information in my brain, I clear the clutter by deleting what I don't need. Don't hold on to the junk - it leaves less room for the good stuff.

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READY FOR YOUR DREAMS!

I know you can't remember being 11 months old,
but at that tender age, your goal wasn't to build up a substantial 401K -
It was simply to walk on your own.
And you had to start with baby steps - there wasn't any shortcut you could take.
Even Fred Astaire and Ricky Martin didn't start our trippin' the light fantastic.

So don't negate the baby steps when you're trying to fulfill your dreams.
On your journey, you may wobble and fall on your tush,
but those baby steps will add up to a sensational stride.

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RING-A-LING-A-LING

No matter what her happy meter is at any given moment,
my soon-to-be mother-in-law always answers the phone
as if Clark Gable is on the other end.
She has the most inviting hello that translates into,
"Hi, I know who it is, and I'm thrilled that you called!"
Her warm, inviting beginning to the call ensures a great middle and an equally great end.
No matter what the circumstances are around you,
try to bring new energy to each call.
Whether it's personal or professional,
that split-second welcome sets the entire tone.

Lina always has the "hello" that makes me smile. =)

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PASS ON A "WOW"

It's so joyous to watch little kids say the word WOW!
So many tiny miracles cross our paths on the road to Wow.
Then we grow up, and the wows are few and far between. . .
but oh-so-special when they arrive.
So now, instead of sending jokes over the internet,
I've gotten in the habit of passing on the Wow,
kind of like a chain letter of amazing moments.
The next time you say it, share it. . .
There just aren't enough of them anymore.

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THANX

Sometimes the right thank-you note can be even more memorable than the gift that was given. Whether you had the time of your life or were so bored that you fell asleep behind your menu, there is always a creative way to say thank you.

For instance:
- - Take a pack of matches from the restaurant where you ate, and tell your host that the evening was "unmatchable."

- - Add a little "prop" to your note. If someone did you a huge favor, put in a pack of Lifesavers, telling them that they were your. . .your guessed it! For affection, add a chocolate kiss. . .for celebration, some confetti. . . and for relaxation, a sprig of dried lavender.

- - If you were invited to a great tennis match, write your thank-you note on a tennis ball.

- - If you had dinner at the home of a friend who collected china monkeys, write the note on a banana (I know you're rolling your eyes), but I did this for a well-known celeb and received thank you for my thank you.

Just be personal, have fun with your ideas, and go for it.
Creativity doesn't require artisitic ability. . .
Just the ability to stretch the limits that bind us.

Joanne always write short yet sweet notes. =)
Lina and Lydia too.
These 3 darlings of mine brighten up my v.day
with just little things. =D
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FAMILY TIES

The great thing about home video cameras is that they not only record baby's first step, but they also act as the historian for the family. The camera is there for all school plays, the championship soccer matches, and Granny's 70th birthday party. But so much of our family "love" slips through the cracks due to a lack of the written word. It's normal for us to keep personal journals, but the family's story always seems to take a backseat to our own life story.
From now on, alternate being the secretary of the family,
contributing to a journal that tells everyone's story.
Let your little ones take part in this ritual as soon as they can communicate.
It's so priceless to watch their simple pictures turn into prose.

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SEALED WITH A KISS

Slipping an unexpected Hershey's Kiss into an eyeglass case, briefcase, or pocketbook, can give your loved one a joyful jolt.
(But you'd better not do it if the air conditioner's on the blink - you don't want any chocolate meltdowns!)

Just in case chocolate doesn't float your boat,
a little note will do the trick. . .
or even a small picture - any unexpected little treat.

When Julia Roberts won an Oscar for Erin Brockovich,
her hotel suite resembled a luxurious floral shop.
Magnificent arrangements were coming in by the dozens,
each one more exquisite than the next.
But it was the simple gesture
made by her then-boyfriend Benjamin Bratt that stole her heart.
He ripped off a corner of the Oscar program and wrote a note
saying how proud of her he was and slipped into her pocketbook
while she was doing the obligatory press interviews.

You see, Julia knows that little things make a big difference.

That's how Joanne, Lydia and Lina brighten up my v.day. =D
Chocolate, pictures and notes.
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COMPLIMENTARY COMPLIMENT

I could be wrong, but i don't think Meg Ryan really needs to hear one more time that she has a trillion-dollar smile.
But recently, when i told a waitress that she had a lovely smile,
I was so touched by her response.
With tears in her eyes, she handed me the check and told me that no one in her life had ever given her a compliment before.
Of course, at that point i wanted to sign over the deed to my house as a tip!
She went on to say that she would remember the moment forever.

The power of a genuine compliment is immense.
I know that your mom taught you to find the good in everything. . .
so when you do find it, speak up!
It's free, and the impact can be miraculous.

To those who are reading these, thank you so much. =)
To all my friends and sisters, i love all of you.
You people are important to me. Lovess.
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DOUBLE YOUR PLEASURE

Okay, this might be one of those ideas that isn't in your comfort zone,
but i encourage you to try it just once.
This is such a hoot - I can guarantee tons of smiles, lots of acquaintances, and interesting conversations. All you have to do is play dress-up!

That's right - plan to dress up like twins with a really good friend.
You'll be amazed at how many new people you meet with just minimal effort.

Ahaha! WE always do this right girls?
Wearing black on the same day, or white? =D
Lovess.
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COULDN'T BE BETTER

Ask Tom Hanks any day of the week,"How ya doin'?"
and invariably you'll receive "Couldn't be better" as the response.
True, Tom has a fantastic wife, fabulous kids, a phenomenal career,
and is adored by zillians, but even during his down times,
his answer will always be upbeat.
Hopeful, happy words make a big difference,
to sprinkle your vocabulary with superlatives,
and they will serve as a positive affirmation.

Wow! This was a brilliant, stupendous, miraculous, awesome, spectacular, fantabulous, splendiferous idea!

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THE DREAM MACHINE

ACNN producer once told the wonderful Katie Couric that she'd never make it in the television. . .
High school coaches thought that Michael Jordan wasn't good enough to make the basketball team. . .
and Barbra Streisand was warned that her nose would sniff out all hopes of her becoming a star.
But all these three had dreams that were too strong to be shattered by negativity.
I grew up thinking that i could become the first female president because i had parents who constantly encouraged my pie-in-the-sky attitude. I would randomly receive little notes from my mom, encouraging life on the other side of the "glass ceiling".
In my dad's eyes, I was an Olympic gold medal gymnast, even though i could barely do a handstand.
So be a dream promoter to those around you.
Little words of encouragement help float big ideas.
Walt Disney was once told by a teacher to stop dreaming.
What if he had listened?

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STRANGERS IN PARADISE

Take the time to tell a stranger what a great job they did!
A receptionist, a telephone operator, a train conductor, a busboy, a crossing guard. . .
We all need a little boost.

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- - Three short "stories" from Little Things make a Big Difference" written by Laurin Sydney

Seriously, i LOVE this book. =D
Guess i shall update more little stories from her book. =))

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It would appear that you are experiencing one problem after another. When one problem is resolved, another seems to immediately take its place. It could well be that you are trying too desperately to evade or to escape from your present situation and it is 'you' that is causing the problems to manifest themselves. You need to slow down a little.

You are working extremely hard trying to improve your image in the eyes of others. You are looking for acknowledgement from your peers and those who come into your sphere of influence. You want to be liked, not for what people think of you but for what you really are.

Everyone, sooner or later gets that feeling that one has been cut off from reality, cut off from everything that's going on around them. It usually happens when there is a complete lack of understanding and co-operation - be it from friends, family or loved ones. So what can one do about it? Instead of pondering as to what the future may hold, do something different. Make a cup of coffee. Have a shower. Read a book. Watch your favourite soap opera. Because as soon as you become involved in something different, the original disassociated feelings will dissipate.

As of late, you have been experiencing untold stress and this is a result of continuous frustration. You haven't been taking care of all your physical needs and it's beginning to show. It would seem that you have a need to find someone to whom you can really relate - someone perhaps whose standards are as high as your own. You want to be different - to be individualistic - to stand out from the common herd. Your inherent control of your sensual instincts is restricting your ability to give yourself to open up freely but this being on your own, being lonely, often makes you feel the need to give up some of your strict standards to surrender to the general flow - to be like everyone else; a part of the herd. Deep down you regard such instincts as weaknesses to be overcome. You would like to be loved or admired for yourself alone. You demand recognition and tender loving care.

Being afraid that you may be prevented from achieving your hopes and dreams is making you anxious and nervous. As a dreamer your ideas can at times move into the realm of fantasy and you could be following that so called illusive dream.

-- my personal profile (http://www.paulgoldinresearch.com/cg/)

Labels: believe it or not, colorgenics

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Title : they just don't let me

i wanted to eat this
yet
THEY don't wish that i can eat this
and
HE also indirectly disapprove me of eating this

yea, im dying of hunger
and
please, im skinny enough ok?

just let me have what i want
for breakfast
is that hard?

Labels: breakfast, just some thoughts

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Title : hearts of women n men

LOVE overcomes everything

yups, every single thing

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hearts of women & men

are all made of the same material

the only difference is that

they function differently

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LOVE is the key to

solving all problems

yet

is also the start to all problems

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when your LOVE of self

are more than

your LOVE for others,

problems starts.

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when your LOVE for others

are above the

LOVE for self,

problems are resolved.

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people get angry mostly

due to selfish issues.

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why a teacher gets angry

with a student?

cos the student is bad?

of course not

she is angry with herself

for not being a good teacher

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it's nothing wrong to be angry

but

just don't let the sun go down

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Title : will you leave your sky?

one night,
the moon said to me,
if love makes you cry
why don't you leave your lover

i looked back at the moon
and said
would you ever leave your sky?

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Title : love and marriage

A student asks a teacher, "What is love?"

The teacher said,
"in order to answer your question, go to the padi field and choose the biggest padi and come back.
But the rule is: you can go through them only once and cannot turn back to pick."

The student went to the field, go thru first row, he saw one big padi, but he wonders....may be there is a bigger one later.

Then he saw another bigger one... but may be there is a even bigger one waiting for him.

Later, when he finished more than half of the padi field, he start to realize that the padi is not as big as the previous one he saw, he know he has missed the biggest one, and he regretted .

So, he ended up went back to the teacher with empty hand.

The teacher told him,
"...this is love... you keep looking for a better one, but when later you realize, you have already miss the person...."

"What is marriage then?" the student asked.

The teacher said,
"in order to answer your question, go to the corn field and choose the biggest corn and come back.
But the rule is: you can go through them only once and cannot turn back to pick."

The student went to the corn field,
this time he is careful not to repeat the previous mistake,
when he reach the middle of the field,
he has picked one medium corn that he feel satisfy, and come back to the teacher.

The teacher told him,
"this time you bring back a corn, you look for one that is just nice, and you have faith and believe this is the best one you get.... this is marriage."

Labels: marriage, spell L-O-V-E

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Title : promise me, not to turn your back at me

never turn your back at me
promise me this.

i noe you will never.

Labels: just some thoughts

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Title : your choice

when it's a must to choose
out of so many options
which will you choose?

the best one or
the one you love?

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Title : my heart

my heart is made of glass
handle it with care
it's fragile

hold it with your hands
let my heart feel
the warmth &
the love

only you
have the magic
to keep my heart pumping

i gave my heart you
please love it with yours

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Title : 爱

爱一个人是包容
不是疑惑

爱一个人是接受
不是改变

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i ain't close to perfection
im a normal human.

just like any other girls
i hoped for someone
who loves me
who dote me
who care for me

i found him

im glad that among
these billions of people
i met him
i knew him

im just a normal girl
please, don't think that
im close to perfection
i am not

thinking that im close to perfection
will make my little mistake
seems to be a big one
and it'll make both of us
feel unhappy
and
stupid things start to happen

treat me like a normal, little girl
that needs
your hands, to hold me
your eyes, to look at me
your arms, to hug me
your lips, to kiss me
your mouth, to sweet talk me
your heart, to love me

Labels: iLOVEyou, spell L-O-V-E

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Title : chuppa chups

if only life were to be
like chuppa chups

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Title : dunno since when.

don't know since when
they stopped asking their baby girl
to study hard
they stopped asking her
"have you finished your homework?"
they stopped asking her
"how's school today?"

but she knows
they did all these cos'
they believed in her
that she would study hard
independently
and on her own

and they will be even more pleased
than ever
on the day of her graduation
that their baby girl
had made it

she knows that
it's ok if her mom and dad
didn't ask abt her results
didn't ask abt her school work
didn't ask anything abt her studies

that baby girl
is me.

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Title : management lesson

Lesson One
An eagle was sitting on a tree resting, doing
nothing.

A small rabbit saw the eagle and asked him,
"Can I also sit like you and do nothing?"
The eagle answered: "Sure, why not."

So, the rabbit sat on the ground below the eagle
and rested.
All of a sudden, a fox appeared,
jumped on the rabbit and ate it.

Management Lesson - To be sitting and doing
nothing, you must be sitting very, very high up.

Lesson Two
A turkey was chatting with a bull.
"I would love to be able to get to the top of that tree," sighed
the turkey, "but I haven't got the energy."
"Well, why don't you nibble on some of my
droppings?" replied the bull. "They're packed with
nutrients."

The turkey pecked at a lump of dung, and found
it actually gave him enough strength to reach the
lowest branch
of the tree. The next day, after
eating some more dung, he reached the second branch.
Finally after a fourth night, the turkey was proudly
perched at the top of the tree. He was promptly
spotted by a farmer, who shot him out of the tree.

Management Lesson - Bull shit might get you to
the top, but it won't keep you there.

Lesson Three
A little bird was flying south for the winter. It was
so cold, the bird froze and fell to the ground into a
large field. While he was lying there, a cow came by
and dropped some dung on him.
As the frozen bird lay there in the pile of cow dung,
he began to realize how warm he was. The dung was
actually thawing him out! He lay there all warm
and
happy, and soon began to sing for joy.

A passing cat heard the bird singing and came to
investigate. Following the sound, the cat discovered
the bird under the pile of cow dung, and promptly dug
him out and ate him.

Management Lesson -
(1) Not everyone who shits on you is your enemy.
(2) Not everyone who gets you out of shit is your
friend.
(3) And when you're in deep shit, it's best to keep
your mouth shut!

got this from an email.
interesting isn't it?
ha.

Labels: management lessons

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Title : when you are happy

im just happy with my results
but i still care about my friends
=)

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Title : big turn over

i think
i should
change
the way i dress usually

=)

time for big turn over
xD

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Title : boredom

BOREDOM

boring day at home
children should be kept occupied
how about me?
boring

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Title : hot hot sun

wake up at 9.30am
*tired!*
tied hair
changed
out i went

went to play bball
with LOTS of guys
yea, guys meaning?
pro at bball lahx

xiaofong and peipei
were there too
only 3 girls

ehx, yea
im a lousy player
xP

lucky i got apply sunblock
if not
i can become charcoal liao
the sun is HOT
hotter than u can imagine

went to have lunch
home i went

BATH TIME!
shiok!
hahax.

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Title : uniqueness.

因为世界上没有完全相像的两个人，
所以也就没有完全相像的两端感情。

任何人的爱情都是不需要比较的，
只要是真心付出，
任何一个人对于另外一个人都应该是特别，
独一无二的。

quoted from
xiaofong/peipei's blog.

everybody is different
there is no identical relationship
you don't have to compare relationships
between people
love somebody/everybody
wholeheartedly and truly

everyone is special and unique
in their own way

different people
different mindset
different thinking
different views

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Title : happyness

never allow anybody to tell you
what you cannot do.

there is nothing you can't do.
people tell you that you can't do it,
cos' they, themselves can't do it.

happYness.

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Title : should i cut my hair?

should i
or
should i not
cut my hair?

Labels: should i or should i not

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Title : i can't do without you

tears can't do without tissues

a wound can't do without plasters

a computer can't do without a mouse

fishes can't do without water

a door can't do without a door knot

the world can't do without sunlight

and

i can't do without you

Labels: door knot, fishes, mouse, plasters, sunlight, tissue

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Title : solved.

i know you love me.
i know you care for me.
i know you are protective of me.

im just glad and relief
cos of.
=)

everything's over.
i still love you.

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Title : im sorry.

i aint a perfect girl.
i aint a wonderful girl.
i am just a human.

i make mistakes.
i apologised.
yet make thing worst.

what have i done to deserve all these?
i dont want to hide anything from you.
i want to be honest with you.
i made you mad.

it isnt your fault.
it's mine.

when i realised it's my mistake.
things got to the worst stage.
there is no turning back.
no apologies can cure.
it seems like nothing can help.

wendy, don't cry.
he doesn't like tears.
he won't want to see tears.
he won't want to hear those sniffing.
be a strong girl.
don't cry.
crying will only make him
more mad.

i tried to control.
but their aren't listening to me.
they fell
they roll
they came down

i'm sorry
i mean it this time

Labels: my fault, sorry, when i realised

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Title : day out at lydia's house.

finally.
no, should be . . FINALLY! *jumps*
i met up with my sisters!
i miss them so so so much during the holidays!

hugged naz when she came to fetch me at AMK
hugged foongling when we saw her.
and oh ya.
HAPPY BELATED BIRTHDAY FOONGLING!
we will love you no matter how WOLS you are. xD

went to lydia's hse.
lydia wasnt home.
she is out to fetch joanne n shuting.
xinting and shaheila was at her hse.

tasted lydia's onion rings.
erm, lydia, i think you need more practices. =X
but it's tasted good, looked. abit.. ~~weird~~ special.

then joanne n shuting came.
so excited to see joanne.
hugged each other. =)

so sad that jennifer, lina, linda and huiwen wasnt there.
miss them so badly!
i wanna hug you girls tightly!!

chocolate fondue (right spelling? i dunno.)
was nice. =)
and we had lots of fun.

and we all know more abt shaheila's likings.
she like all kind of BALLS, except red ones.
she like balls that are HARD too.

laughters and fun are what we experienced todae.
not forget the uno madness, uno games, memory game, and cluedo.

such a fun day out, at lydia's house.
=)

enjoyed to the fullest.

Labels: card games, chocolate fondue, hugs

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Title : how would you feel if . . .